Logic doesn’t control behaviors…..
…..Emotions do. Emotions energize your verbal and nonverbal behaviors accordingly.
Your beliefs are perceptions that interpret events in your life. Simply put, what you think about inside expands to create life around you – through the power of the emotions it causes.
This applies to relationships, as well. When you approach your partner (married or dating) defensively, you resonate with one or more survival fears, for example. Your thoughts about spending time together, thus, do not produce happy images in your mind of your partner welcoming you with excitement (as they did, for example, when you first met), right? They likely create fear-inducing images instead, perhaps, of your partner dismissing, arguing back or withdrawing from you.
Essentially, when you do this, you produce more of what you resonated with inside, emotionally. Emotions tend to perpetuate themselves.
Can you get to the bottom of these emotions and understand why simple tasks cause relationship tension? Or figure out why making past a 4th date is mission impossible? My workshop could help